Hah! This used to be something that irritated me. Looking at ancestors to define who we are. Being asked of my heritage. But I’ve calmed down a lot in my adult years. I still feel little interest in family trees etc, but am totally fine with others fiddling with ‘em.
…and that would be why we made a point of not selecting the names of any relatives when naming my kids.
I did accidentally get one (I had a great aunt named Catherine, which is my daughter’s middle name), but as she’s been dead for quite a while, nobody noticed. :)
We’ve named our kids after dead relatives, but it was less to define the kids than it was to honor the relatives. One great-grandparent from each side, used as first and middle respectively.
Each of our children is her own person.
I still sometimes (almost) wish we’d had a boy. I think “Gordon Matthias” would have been an awesome name.
I share your antipathy to the notion of hereditary “value”. We may inherit physical characteristics, but nor moral or character ones. I have seen too much difference between even siblings in the same household to believe our ancestors can influence our personality or destiny.